Title: Always Express Appreciation.
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The noun word, “appreciation” is the word used to express or reveal a feeling of admiration, gratitude or approval for the personality or performance of another being, human or animal. This is usually a follow-up action to an assessment process of the personality or the activities of the being in reference. The assessment may be a direct one carried out by the one who is expressing appreciation or may be a product of the report of another person or group but what is important is that the assessment process would have revealed an outstanding act worthy of commendation in the view of the one that desires to express appreciation.
However, due to differences in the interests and individual standards, appreciation may not always be expressed by different people at the same time. An act that has attracted the appreciation of one person may have no similar impact on another thus giving the impression that the one who has not gone along with the general expression of appreciation like others did, on that occasion, is an unappreciative person. Such a person may be isolated for serious criticisms and condemnation by the majority and may actually suffer so much pain and distress for that act which may not be done out of malice, grudge or any negative or ulterior motive, but could just be the product of a honest assessment based on his/her own personal standards. The truth remains that standards are set based on the limits of individual knowledge and the one who is being accused of being unappreciative may have actually experienced higher levels of performance when compared to the achievements that is being celebrated and so may not be too emotionally moved like the majority on that occasion.
Things are however, not always like this as indeed, there are some people who out of negative thoughts of envy, jealousy and/or strife refuse to acknowledge the achievements of the one who is being appreciated and celebrated. To such people no level of performance by such an individual will ever attract appreciation from them. It is not the case of having witnessed better performances as they are not just prepared to appreciate the celebrated one for the earlier mentioned selfish reasons. Such group of people will never express appreciation with regards to the achievements of others.
There is also the group of people who just cannot see the good of any other person besides themselves and this happens irrespective of who that other person his as such a person may even be immediate family members. They only see themselves in all situations and so are not just wired to see the good in others as they are only focused on themselves. Over time they have seen themselves as the peak of performance in all areas of life and so cannot see any reason to recognise outstanding performance in others.
In truth, performances that are to be appreciated should never be assessed in relation to self or any other but must be done relative to the person and the existing situation. For example, the one who chooses to support others in any way whatsoever must be appreciated, whether such an individual is so positioned to render such support or not just as the amount of help in comparison to others is completely irrelevant. It cannot be about all those points which will only determine the extent of the help but should be about the impact that such support has on that occasion. It is not about the level of support given but about the relief that the support brought, just as it is not about whether the support brought total relief but that it was sufficient to move the beneficiary of the support from one point to the other in a progressive manner. It remains a failed excuse to attempt to justify not expressing appreciation on the basis that the action did not impact much. Such a reaction should always be classed as ingratitude. Appreciation must be expressed for as long as an effort was put in aimed at achieving a positive impact.
Appreciation being an expression must be visible. It is simply impossible to claim to appreciate someone with no tangible evidence of such, even though such manner of expression may not always be material in nature. A sincere verbal expression of gratitude or recognition of the one deserving of appreciation may be all that is required as it goes a long way. Appreciation not only shows that the people recognise the effort of such an individual but it also motivates the individual to want to do more of such acts and also encourage others who are yet to do such positive acts to desire to do so. The end product is a better group, better society and better world dominated with good and positive actions of men.
One of the major reasons why the world is filled with evil acts today is because actions that are classified as evil seem better appreciated and compensated by the society than actions that can be classified as positive. The world will always be a better place if men can always express appreciation for the positive actions of one another.
Some may want to put up a defense that they do express appreciation to the Almighty God even of such is not expressed for fellow human beings. The truth however is that the one who does not express appreciation of the positive actions of fellow men cannot genuinely claim to appreciate God.
Some may actually express appreciation to fellow men and confuse such acts with appreciating the Almighty God. It should be made clear that, as much as both may seem the same in some situations, they are actually different. A direct personal gift to a man of God for example may be in appreciation of what God has used such a personality to achieve but in real terms, may not be a sign of appreciation to the Almighty God. The Almighty God does have feelings and desires and in appreciating Him, the mode of appreciation must meet those feelings and desires. David may have built large structures to appreciate the role of Priests during his time but that will never supplement for his dancing and singing of praises to the Almighty God despite the fact that both actions were done with a heart directed at Him only. Even in the expression of appreciation to the Almighty God using materials things, it is simply wrong to give more to the instrument of God who is the Priest than to the owner of the instrument, that is the Almighty God. There will have to be the evidence that the Almighty God is better appreciated than his tool, irrespective of the spiritual status of such a tool.
Not everyone can however express appreciation. This is because appreciation is a product of honest and precise assessment of the activities of the one to be appreciated and possession of sufficient wisdom to know the impact of such action, no matter how minimal. The one who is not sufficiently skilled in the above mentioned areas cannot appreciate. It is simply impossible to appreciate what one is ignorant of as the minimum requirement for one to express appreciation is to have knowledge of the achievements of the one to be appreciated, whether present of past. True appreciation is always preceded by knowledge and the one who lacks it will never be able to express appreciation. Nabal could not appreciate David as he seemed not to be aware of all his contributions towards protecting his flock. The one that desires to always express appreciation must always seek knowledge about all situations. That is the only way that such can express appreciation always and receive more favours in the future. May God give us all the wisdom to express appreciation always in Jesus name. Amen.